To me life is full of charm, beauty and love. Somewhere
there is sadness and pain as well but this is also a part of life, if not sad
how can we understand the importance of happiness and satisfaction and how can
we enjoy them???? ups and downs are the realities of life which should be
accepted as they are. One must realize the fact that time does not remains
constant, it always keep on changing. We cannot stop this change, as it is spontaneous
and it always runs towards its end… yes the end of time. As the time changes,
so as the emotions, level of understanding, priorities, wishes and wills of
human beings . It is an accepted fact and we can understand this reality from
our daily life experiences.
As a child, we have curiosity, innocence and attractions for
our childish behaviors. At this age, our priorities are parents, food and all
good looking and colorful things. As an adult our priority changes as we have
lots of work to do, school work, homework and studies. We have to spare some
time for our friends and beloved one. Our curiosity increase overlapping the
innocence. Sometimes we don’t care about foods. We want to fly and we are
having fighting nature with a new zeal and enthusiasm.
It is just after graduation we feel a big change in
ourselves. Our priorities changes once again, at this age of life we look for a
job, a comfortable life with in a smart and beautiful life partner, somewhere
we feel while making some decisions that our parents are aged now, they cannot
make good decisions for us anymore. As they are old and we are people of new
era, so they cannot understand our situations and emotions. Friendship in this age becomes meaningful to
us and about foods, who cares…
Than, a new life begins, with new hope, new priorities, new
thoughts and new zeal. We get a job; get married and our approaches to life
changes. Our new life seems more attractive than old parents. Starting new life means closing old chapters.
At this point we want to enjoy our life the most we can. But somewhere we
starting realize how hard the life is. The more we are facing the facts of life
the more we try to be realistic.
The next age of life is again with a new zeal and new intensions
and priorities changes again for making our lives more satisfactory. We want
our children to be happier than we were at their age and we trying hard to make
their dreams true. At some points we starting realize the importance of our
parents. At this age we can feel the true love, care and emotions of our
parents. We start missing them. To me, all those are lucky who still have a
chance to serve their parents.. Friends are less important in this age, as our
concentration is diverted to our family and children, their education, life
style and comfort.
Relations are always complicated to me, it is only because of
the expectations that develop automatically on both side s and become stronger
with the passage of time. I am surprised, whether it is possible to avoid expectations
and all the problems which results because of those expectations. People
usually say Ooh you are my best friend…. I just Love you… You the most sweet to
me.. You are just awesome… You are my sweet heart. I can do everything for you…
But Sometimes it take just a moment to destroy everything..
Sometimes just a
word is sufficient to bring you into the world of reality.. Yes the world where
there is love for self and nothing else. Because when there is involvement of
self, ego and interest everything, every relation become meaningless. Just have
a look around you; you will found more than 95% people doing the same including
you. Friendship ends for just nothing.. the one moment you are the hero and the
next moment you are just nothing. A
common man with hurting heart and sometimes they mean to hurt you… I personally think every person have a
personal zone of comfort and discomfort..
Somehow you can call it ego. We cannot tolerate anything behind the
boundary line of our comfort zone. If this is truth… then where is the best
friendship???… where is the relation forever???.. Where is the sacrifice???..
Why is the discrimination between good and best friends????
I think this kind of love and friendship exists only in
fairy tales and movies. In this world of materialism nothing exists as love any
more. But at the same time there are still some relations worthy mention.. yes
the relation of brothers and sisters (The blood relations)are still enchanted
with love and true love. One can say and I have seen myself many cases around
me when brothers and sisters priorities changes with the passage of time coz of
their new lives and new responsibilities. To me, there might be two reasons for
it, i.e mostly when they are get married and rarely when they feel a kind of
injustice from their parents which creates haters among them.
To me the true relation is the relation of mother and father
for their children which is just pure and without any interest for themselves.
In every case and always their priority is their children and at every step of
life one can feel the strength and purity of relation. No matters how bad you
are to them but when their turn to act they have nothing other than to forgive
you. They may not take a moment to hug you and that is the true relation.
What I discussed above is just my opinion ..You might have
many objections on my writing like this, especially about the relations.. You
have the right not to agree.. But this is what I feel and experienced..
There are things in life we don’t want to happen, but have to accept;
things we don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people we can’t live
without, but have to let go.
To me, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” - I am still
determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have
also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery
depends upon our dispositions and not upon our circumstances.
I can conclude the discussion with some beautiful line form
someone.
We all come in different SHAPES and SIZES.
We all have STRENGTHS and weaknesses.
What's right for one
person may not be right for another.
There are things that are important to me, that you don't care about at all!
And sometimes your behavior doesn't make any sense to me.
But I want for us to understand each other, and communicate well,
because we live together in the same world.
I know I can't expect you to want the same things that I want.
We are not the same person, so we will not always see things the same way.
I have my own Thoughts and my own Ideas,
that may or may not fit into your vision of who I should be.
By learning more about my own Personality, and about other Personality Types,
I can come to a better understanding of my strengths and weaknesses.